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Selling Our Dream Home


By Paula Friedrichsen

Some years back my husband asked me to sell our dream home so we could get our finances in order and prepare for his retirement. My initial reaction was Absolutely Not! And I held on firmly and tightly to my response, unwilling to even consider selling our beautiful home. This went on for months. One day I was out on a walk pouring my heart out to the Lord telling him how unfair I felt the situation was, and it was during that time of prayer that I began to gain God's perspective on my husband. It was as if the Lord gently took me by the chin and put my focus on all my husband's wonderful qualities and sacrificial love for me. And what did I see? I saw all Jeff had done for me over the years. I saw that even though he had already had two grown children by the time we had married, he consented to let me have a baby... and then seven years later, another baby. I saw how hard he had worked for our family. I saw all the times he had done the little things, like filling my car with gas, and checking the oil before I went on a trip. I saw his many good qualities and how loving he was to me and the kids. And all of a sudden, selling our dream home didn't seem like such a high price to pay.

I like to call this kind of epiphany a "Ta Da" moment. Like the old game show "Let's Make a Deal", the curtain is pulled back with a flourish and you see that you have won a prize. Our husbands may not be perfect, but with very few exceptions, most of them have worthy qualities just waiting to be noticed and esteemed. Each is a prize in their own right.

Today I'm going to give you several strategies to help facilitate your own Ta Da! moment.

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© Paula Friedrichsen, 2008-present
Paula Friedrichsen is a conference speaker and the author of "The Man You Always Wanted is The One You Already Have" (Multnomah 2007). She lives with her husband and daughter in Northern California. www.PFMinistries.com

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